In our daily lives it can easily happen, that when we don’t pay attention, we get to make one compromise after another. Compromises in your job, you can’t choose to do what you want to do when you feel like it. In most cases a job is like that.
Compromises with your friends. Compromises between you and your friends, partner or with your family. Compromises with the traffic or the public transport service.
Before we were able to understand and use the language in which we grew up we were free of making too many comprises. When we weren’t “forced” to eat, sleep or going home, we were mostly playing around with things, other kids or animals or were discovering our surrounding with all its things. We were most of the time directly connected to our will. We could just feel it and go for it.
But once we started to understand the language in which we grew up, we got many things told to do or not to, how to be a good daughter or son, brother or sister, pupil, student, employee, etc.
Due to our young age when this happens most of us didn’t consciously take care of the connection to their inner clarity of knowing what they want to do.
What is happening by compromising more and more often in different fields of life is that our inner will feels more and more ignored.
Until the point where it says:
“You know what!? You don’t listen anyway, so fuck it, I stop telling you what we want.”
As the years pass by, some of us even get so far away that they pretend to be someone that they are not, just to get the attention of friends, partner, teacher, parents, boss, etc.
Just like kids when they yield for their parents to look at them.
A compromise itself is nothing bad because it serves as a bridge between two people or parties and brings them together or closer.
But en masse, they can cut your connection to your inner clarity of knowing what you want clearly.
Here are 4 techniques that help you connect stronger to your inner clarity & will.
Technique Nr 1:
Spending alone time, in which you can totally choose what you do. It is very helpful and powerful. Especially when you follow your interests or things you are curious about.
Alone time in which you just watch TV, Netflix or movies or game around because you don’t know what else to do, is very likely not going to help you getting clarity. It is rather numbing you from the feeling of unclarity.
A lot of great minds who invented very useful stuff for mankind had the habit of taking regular walks for inspiration and ordering thoughts.
Next time you don’t know what to do, why don’t you take a walk to see what’s going on outside and think about what you would love to do in your life in case money, time, skills, and know-how were already there? The how comes always later. It has to be like that since the how needs to know for it is the how. It makes sense, doesn´t it?
Technique Nr 2:
Listen to music or do something that makes you feel good and start asking yourself all sorts of questions you would ask a new friend or someone you’re interested in or getting in love with. About dreams, expectations, hopes, desires, interests, things that fascinate, ideals, principles, etc. And answer the questions as if someone else just asked you these questions.
For making it easier, you can take a blank sheet of paper and list the ABC on the side of the left sheet one letter below the other and screen with your eyes over the letters when you think about answering. The letters help your conscious mind to faster grab the right associations and with these answers. Ask yourself as if money, time, skills and know-how is already there for everything.
You can try, to see yourself in a new unknown way, as if you were just getting to know yourself. This has the power of letting you be able to reinvent yourself, in case you feel like it and by this discover even aspects about yourself, which you weren’t so conscious before about.
Technique Nr 3:
Always when you feel like that you are doing a compromise, ask yourself, what you ideally would want to do instead or if you feel like doing it or not. Your guts are going to answer your question.
Feel into them and you get at least a hint of rather the answer is a Yes or No and most of the times an idea of what you would rather do instead pops up in your mind as well.
The question is if you follow it or not. In case you can do it, just do it and see how this decision makes you feel and what happens. In case it would be harsh, extremely unpolite or you simply like to help or have to do it, do it. The importance lies on being very aware about your clarity about what you doing primarily. To behave less automatic on unconscious behaviour patterns.
So the awareness about what you want is the most important thing in these moments. Often you can do these things later on, anyway.
The fact of knowing another thing that you want is great. Because the more you collect of these moments in which you know what you ideally want, the more your inner will feels appreciated again.
The more attention you give your inner will during your days, the faster it grows again and also serves you your clarity for bigger and general things concerning your life.
Technique Nr 4:
Affirm to yourself throughout the day silently in your mind or just loud enough that you can hear it when others are close, that you know what you want.
Just repeat this sentence again and again and spice it up with the feeling of determination.
In moments in which you are sleepy, like before going to bed, in bed or after waking up or in siestas or moments of relaxing, the repetition of affirmations that are spoken in the present tense have it easiest to sneak into your subconscious mind.
You can make yourself a list of 5 things that you like to be true already, written in the 1. p. singular present tense, and keep this note with you. As for example in your wallet or jeans pocket to see or feel it often and by that get remembered to repeat them.
You may like to read my post about the subconscious mind called Your Subconscious Mind. It introduces you to the abilities and functions about your subconscious mind and how you can better use it for your life.
Enjoy the process of connecting stronger again with your own clarity. It often whispers and is more perceivable in quieter moments and also likes to communicate with your consciousness through your gut feelings.
