Happiness ins one of the things that connects everybody in a way most people don’t recognize.
That everybody wants to be happy. At least consciously.
What being happy means is up to each individual’s experiences with happiness.
We all associate the description of feeling good or joyful with it.
Interestingly the part which wants to be happy is way bigger than the part which is happy.
The difference between them is by most people supposed to be hidden in between these two. In some form of a way, that makes us feel and be happy.
The idea that being happy depends upon something, someone or an outer event is predominating nowadays. And most likely here lies also the reason why the part of the people who want to be happy is way bigger than the part of the people who are happy.
As soon as you consciously or subconsciously choose something outside of you is the reason for your happiness, you cut the rope of your “power over it”. You give them power and objectification of your happiness onto the thing, person or event. You objectify people to fulfill your desire for happiness.
Now feeling to be the reason why someone else is happy, is a beautiful thing. But to make someone perhaps against their will the reason for your happiness, you sort of misuse them. And its less about who they are individually rare.
But let’s stick to the difference of wanting to be happy and being happy.
Wanting contains that you aren’t happy yet. Being happy that you are happy already.
Buddha made aware of this difference by recommending to take away the “I”, that wants to be happy because that is your ego. Which is mostly responsible for all your suffering in the first place besides your lack of controlling your mind in case you don’t. Then he recommends to take away the verb “to want” because that is desire.
What you are left with is simply happiness.
In order to be happy you solely need to focus on happiness for yourself. Your brain immediately comes up with all sorts of associations you have created in your life with the meaning of the word happiness.
The fact that your thoughts and feelings are connected through your nervous system lets you feel happy when the focus of your thoughts lies solely on happiness and it’s meaning for you.
You just used the short cut. But not only that. As soon as you feel good or happy, more things happen that you associate with happiness.
A good song can cheer you often already up. A good song or track and focus on happiness is a powerful combo.
In the very first place being happy is a decision. as long as you don’t decide to be happy, you depend upon outer things, people or events to become happy.
I hope this post helped to remind you that happiness is already within you and within your reach.
If you “want” to be happy.
It is actually our nature to be happy.
Our mind just stands in the way usually.
