When I was young I heard a story about a traveling man. Who started with a lot of luggage and lost piece by piece of his luggage during his journey. To his surprise, he felt overwhelmingly grateful for the loss of his luggage because it was a liberating sense of being with just a very view things. The losses were him a lesson in letting go. And gave him paradoxically something. Lightness of being.
Similar to too much luggage, we can continue living with too much luggage from the past.
Because the unnecessary luggage or burden of the past lies all the time on our shoulders, we are also the ones who can decide to get it off our shoulders and leave it where it is.
What is it, that happened already a while ago but still takes a lot of your mental energy?
In the form of overthinking it again and again or regretting regularly some behavior of yours? Some missed opportunities or things you did or didn’t and regret?
How to let go.
Take a piece of paper, write down what you have learned from it and then forgive yourself for this particular thing. Your opinion on this matter is determining how you feel. And no bad feeling in the world is going to do any good. Not in the world and not in your life when you over exaggeratedly bath in this bad feeling. This will only keep you chained to it instead of learning from it and going on.
Therefore it is fundamental to realize that the power of letting go, forgiving yourself or accepting the past lies for your life solely in your hands.
It is one of the fundamentals of and for positive change and letting go.
Accept your situation and acknowledge your responsibility for it. Let the past be the past.
The very basic is that you have to accept your status quo and to acknowledge that you brought yourself into this situation. Because if you give the responsibility for your current status quo to someone else or outer circumstances it is much harder if not impossible to change much by yourself.
Only when you take whole responsibility for your life, you have the power to change it. You cannot change what you don’t own.
And your life depends totally on who you are and what you do.
This means that changing your life is equal to changing yourself and your actions and habits. Who isn’t ready for that, isn’t ready for change.
The ability to let the past be the past is very advised as well. To make it more obvious and perhaps through this also easier:
Try for one day to walk the whole day backward.
Seriously.
Similar to this is the way of life that many people actually lead. With their mind, they are for 95 % of the time or even more in past memories and mental self conversations about them. If you practice this for too long the program of your subconscious mind is programmed almost solely on the past without expecting something new and great to happen, not to mention being able to see, feel and consciously perceive the life with its beauty and opportunities which happens 24/7 around you.
You also lack the drive, enthusiasm, motivation, confidence, and energy you get from working and living towards big and very attractive goals.
By remembering negative past events and memories, you give them the possibility to recreate themselves in your presence and future.
How to receive the promise of the future.
Therefore you can make for example a list of 5 of each point:
- The 5 most beautiful memories of your life.
- The 5 most confident memories of your life.
- The 5 most successful memories of your life.
- The 5 most loving memories of your life. (with partners or family for example)
- The 5 best times of your life. Days, weeks or months or years.
By creating and knowing this list, you have a variety of things you can switch to when old negative memories appear again. Ideally, you go through all of them daily. Also emotionally.
The beauty, confidence, success, love and good energy from these memories not only recreate themselves in your presence and future but also in your aura.
Enjoy the arrivals of your new promises.
“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”
Steve Maraboli
